Physical is one type of love and it is how you are atrratced to someone, Emotional is the other type of love and that is the feelings you have for that other person. The three stages of love are the same for everyone: lust or romantic feelings, physical attraction, and emotional attachment. The stages of love aren’t necessarily separated by markers like anniversaries or events (such as getting married). Rather, the three stages of love blend together in one long stroke of love. Romantic feelings or lust is the first stage of love. Romantic love is driven by testosterone and estrogen. Mating is the evolutionary purpose of this stage of love; it creates strong physical attraction and sets the stage for emotional attachment. In this stage of love, endorphins soak your brain and you’re immersed in intense pleasurable sensations. Your lover is perfect, ideal, made for you. In this stage of love you feel exhilarated and even “high” (similar to the feeling you get after you eat really good chocolate or have a great workout). You feel infatuated in this stage of love.
Physical attraction and power struggles make up the second stage of love (the “lovesick” phase). You may lose your appetite, need less sleep, and daydream about your lover on the bus, during meetings, in the shower. In this stage of love, dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin are racing through your body and brain. You’re also trying to shape your lover into your ideal partner – which is where the power struggles come in. In this stage of relationship, you’re becoming more realistic, and you two may fight about things like whether or not to buy organic food or listen to country music. The infatuation is wearing off, a strong emotional attachment begins to set in, and feelings of infatuation fade.
Emotional attachment or unconditional acceptance is the third stage of love. Emotional attachment involves commitment, partnership, and even children (a fear of intimacy prevents many from reaching this stage of love). In this stage of love, you’re aware of both positive and negative traits in your partner, and you’ve decided you want to build a life together. Confrontation is most likely to occur in this stage of love (though if you’re authentic and honest, it’ll also happen in the second stage of love). You and your partner will either work towards a healthy, loving relationship or decide to call it quits (Pawlik-Kienlen, Laurie).
There is also this thing called “tough love” it is a expression used when someone treats another person harsh, or sternly to help that person out in the long run. It is like when a Mother punishes her Son for stealing a video game from the store, she punished him because if she didnt she knows that he will think it is ok to do it and it could lead to something worse like robbing a bank. So she used “tough love” she was stern with her son and punished him to help him out in the long run.
Love takes more from you then anything else does. To have and make a good relationship it takes, honesty, trust, sympothy, happiness, aggreements, good communication, forgiveness, good attitude, responsibility, fairness, and support. The other two are based on something different whitch follows up under “Physical Love”, Limits, and to not base your whole relationship on sexual activity only. You need all of these to have a good and happy relationship.
Complicated love, love is very comlicated and at many times it will be hard. There will be arguements and fights alot and about many different things. Love can never get satisfied with a partial commitment. Love demands your full attention and all your energy. It is not therefore love that is so complicated but mainly us that can not live up to its expectations. We tend to believe that words will make up for our lack of devotions, and sex will solve all our shortcomings in a relation. Unfortunately, love is much more than physical satisfaction and beautiful words. As an example, marriages often suffer from open truth. Most men and women would tell you how hurtful their partner is. This always occur after two people know too much of each other. It is the time when the nice words and the sex can not make up for all our flaws. It is the time when partners do not try to hide their personal disappointments as they do not receive what they bargained for. It is the time when truth is said to hurt because we are feeling cheated by love. In reality, love never fails us. We fail love. We jump into relationships without being sure of how strongly we love the person, and if we are ready to commit. And when we fail, we just jump to a new one without resolving the issues that made us fail the first one. So, is love complicated? Not really. But we, humans, are. We have so many issues, work related, family related, our differences, our religions, our beliefs, our fears, and all our expectations. By the time we enroll ourselves into a relationship, our mind is already so full that we do not take time to think and realize what we are signing for. We push ourselves forward in the heat of the moment ( Ndong Frederick).
This walk i call Life, and Love is the bggest part of it. – Deanna Mascle
Bibliograby ;
Dickau, Jonathan. “Emotional Love.” Jonathan’s Search for the Common Thread. Jonathan Dickau, 14 Feb. 1999. Web. 3 May 2011. http://jond4u.jonathandickau.com/emotlove.htm.
Mascle, Deanna. “Why Is Love Important?” Buzzle Web Portal: Intelligent Life on the Web. Web. 04 May 2011..
Ndong, Frederick. “Why Is Love so Complicated?” Why Is Love so Complicated? Web. 03 May 2011. http://ezinearticles.com/?Why-is-Love-So-Complicated?&id=2487312.
Pawlik-Kienlen, Laurie. “3 Stages of Love in Relationships: Romantic Feelings, Physical Attraction, and Emotional Attachment Suite101.com.” Suite101.com: Online Magazine and Writers’ Network. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen, 29 Jan. 2007. Web. 04 May 2011..
Physical attraction and power struggles make up the second stage of love (the “lovesick” phase). You may lose your appetite, need less sleep, and daydream about your lover on the bus, during meetings, in the shower. In this stage of love, dopamine, norepinephrine, and serotonin are racing through your body and brain. You’re also trying to shape your lover into your ideal partner – which is where the power struggles come in. In this stage of relationship, you’re becoming more realistic, and you two may fight about things like whether or not to buy organic food or listen to country music. The infatuation is wearing off, a strong emotional attachment begins to set in, and feelings of infatuation fade.
Emotional attachment or unconditional acceptance is the third stage of love. Emotional attachment involves commitment, partnership, and even children (a fear of intimacy prevents many from reaching this stage of love). In this stage of love, you’re aware of both positive and negative traits in your partner, and you’ve decided you want to build a life together. Confrontation is most likely to occur in this stage of love (though if you’re authentic and honest, it’ll also happen in the second stage of love). You and your partner will either work towards a healthy, loving relationship or decide to call it quits (Pawlik-Kienlen, Laurie).
There is also this thing called “tough love” it is a expression used when someone treats another person harsh, or sternly to help that person out in the long run. It is like when a Mother punishes her Son for stealing a video game from the store, she punished him because if she didnt she knows that he will think it is ok to do it and it could lead to something worse like robbing a bank. So she used “tough love” she was stern with her son and punished him to help him out in the long run.
Love takes more from you then anything else does. To have and make a good relationship it takes, honesty, trust, sympothy, happiness, aggreements, good communication, forgiveness, good attitude, responsibility, fairness, and support. The other two are based on something different whitch follows up under “Physical Love”, Limits, and to not base your whole relationship on sexual activity only. You need all of these to have a good and happy relationship.
Complicated love, love is very comlicated and at many times it will be hard. There will be arguements and fights alot and about many different things. Love can never get satisfied with a partial commitment. Love demands your full attention and all your energy. It is not therefore love that is so complicated but mainly us that can not live up to its expectations. We tend to believe that words will make up for our lack of devotions, and sex will solve all our shortcomings in a relation. Unfortunately, love is much more than physical satisfaction and beautiful words. As an example, marriages often suffer from open truth. Most men and women would tell you how hurtful their partner is. This always occur after two people know too much of each other. It is the time when the nice words and the sex can not make up for all our flaws. It is the time when partners do not try to hide their personal disappointments as they do not receive what they bargained for. It is the time when truth is said to hurt because we are feeling cheated by love. In reality, love never fails us. We fail love. We jump into relationships without being sure of how strongly we love the person, and if we are ready to commit. And when we fail, we just jump to a new one without resolving the issues that made us fail the first one. So, is love complicated? Not really. But we, humans, are. We have so many issues, work related, family related, our differences, our religions, our beliefs, our fears, and all our expectations. By the time we enroll ourselves into a relationship, our mind is already so full that we do not take time to think and realize what we are signing for. We push ourselves forward in the heat of the moment ( Ndong Frederick).
This walk i call Life, and Love is the bggest part of it. – Deanna Mascle
Bibliograby ;
Dickau, Jonathan. “Emotional Love.” Jonathan’s Search for the Common Thread. Jonathan Dickau, 14 Feb. 1999. Web. 3 May 2011. http://jond4u.jonathandickau.com/emotlove.htm.
Mascle, Deanna. “Why Is Love Important?” Buzzle Web Portal: Intelligent Life on the Web. Web. 04 May 2011.
Ndong, Frederick. “Why Is Love so Complicated?” Why Is Love so Complicated? Web. 03 May 2011. http://ezinearticles.com/?Why-is-Love-So-Complicated?&id=2487312.
Pawlik-Kienlen, Laurie. “3 Stages of Love in Relationships: Romantic Feelings, Physical Attraction, and Emotional Attachment Suite101.com.” Suite101.com: Online Magazine and Writers’ Network. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen, 29 Jan. 2007. Web. 04 May 2011.
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