Dating For Begginers:)

 ~Just because you want me doesn’t mean you love me. Just because you feel you need me doesn’t mean you deserve me.- Hiei Kaganshi.     Just because you want somebody doesn’t mean you actually love them. Love isn’t a bandage to cover wounds. Even if somebody loves you doesn’t mean you have to be involved with them. Also if you feel like you love someone you may not be meant for each other. You have to consider your surroundings. There are many great things about relationships. However there are also bad things. Like Violence for example. This mainly happens at the beginning of relationships. Although there are some bad things you have to outweigh them with the good things.
               Being “In Love” with someone is unique to every soul on earth. Some of you might feel like you are in love right now; however there is a big distinction between lust, infatuation and true love. (Den).When you love someone, your love for them grows each day. you cant imagine a life without them. Every day you feel your heart has reached its largest point and the next day it grows yet again for this person. They become as much a part of you as you are, you love them. When you are in love with somebody, it would most likely be your spouse. You can show your appreciation for each other easily. You feel the same way you do when you love each other but it’s more than that. You will spend the rest of your life together and they become a giant part of your life.(Jade)
            In a relationship the good will outweigh the bad. Love happens whenever there is action, the feeling will be mutual.(“Dating for Beginners”). However, realize you are a teen, and often your relationship will develop negative aspects. There is a HUGE difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. Usually being in love means that you desire to be physically intimate with the person. You have to be careful, your relationship can become overly obsessive. This can lead to being in an abusive relationship.
                      Abusive relationships can have serious consequences. Domestic violence and abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of size, gender, or strength, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused or denied.(“Domestic Violence and Abuse”). 33% of teens report some type of abuse in their relationship. 12% of that is physical. Some signs of an unhealthy relationship include, unexplained scratches or bruises, less time hanging out with friends or constantly on the cell phone or computer. Noticing and acknowledging the signs of an abusive relationship is the first step to ending it! You deserve a healthy relationship.(l
                 Build, Explore, and Establish, these are the first steps that lead to a strong relationship. (The Beginning Stages”). But, it is not only the emotional aspects of your life that will improve is is also your physical well being. You will sleep more, and you will probably get healthier. (“The Good things about Relationships”). You have to have trust, explore each others interest. Building healthy patterns in your relationship can build a strong foundation. That way you will have a great relationship.
                Relationships are a good thing! You just have to build up to a healthy one. Start with the basics don’t rush anything. This may lead to an abusive relationship. First you have to build then explore and finally establish. That’s a way you and your partner will have an on going strong relationship. Thank you! (:
Allison.

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